Is Al-Anon for me?
Does someone's drinking bother you?
IAl-Anon is for families, relatives and friends whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking.
- "Keep it simple."
- "Easy does it."
- "First things first."
- "Just for today."
- "Let it begin with me."
- "How important is it?"
- "One day at a time."
- "Keep an open mind."
- "Live and let live."
- "Let go and let God."
- "Keep coming back."
- "It works if you work it, so work it 'cause your worth it!"
- "Take what you like and leave the ;rest."
- "Principles above personalities."
- "Progress not Perfection."
- "Love, learn and grow."
The 12 Steps are the foundation for personal recovery in Al-Anon. Under the Recovery heading you'll find information for your personal recovery interests. Check the Meetings page for general information on our meetings, on the monthly Speaker Meeting, and also for special notices. Day-in-Al-anon is a yearly event -- usually close to Valentine's Day -- full of special workshops, food, donation drawing prizes, special speakers, and lots of fellowship. Highly recommended! Also of general interest is the Literature and Newsletter pages.
The 12 Traditions help Al-Anon groups sustain their unity and fellowship. You will information on this site to support meeting groups. If you are wondering how the groups provide members' pamphlets and books, the Literature page has instructions for groups in the District 14 area. If you are interested in helping members of your group contribute to our newsletter, you'll find information on this Newsletter page.
The 12 Concepts of Service provide guidance for service in the Al-Anon fellowship. Here you will find information supporting the activities of the District as it act in service toward our primary goal to carry the message to others who still suffer. From time to time we will post important information from district officials, such as the District Representative, for support of all the groups and service positions within the District. The Day-in-Al-anon page has special information for organizing and providing service to our yearly event. The Newsletter page has details and suggestions for contributing to our newsletter.
October 27: Celebrate the 17th Anniversary of District 14's Open Speaker Meeting! Workshop at 11am on Transforming our Losses at Hillcrest Congregational Church in Pleasant Hill, lunch with guest speaker Sarah R., and evening Open Speaker Meeting 6:30 – 9:00pm Kaiser Walnut Creek, 1515 Newell, 3rd Floor, Oak Room 1.
Have an announcement you would like to see posted here? Email us!
Beginning September 7: Friday 7:30pm Pleasant Hill Al-Anon Adult Children meeting moves to Hillcrest Congregational Church, 404 Gregory Lane, Room 16.
Group representatives: Please contact us with any meeting changes to announce.
Is Al-Anon / Alateen for me?
Al-Anon is for families, relatives and friends whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking. Many adults question whether they have been affected by alcoholism. If someone close to you has, or has had a drinking problem, the following questions may help you in determining whether alcoholism affected your childhood or present life, and if Al-Anon is for you.
Do you need Al-Anon? If you answer yes to any of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may be able to help you. You can find meetings in Central & Eastern Contra County by contacting us or by using this site to find a meeting.
- Does Someone's Drinking Bother You?
- Are You Growing up in a Family with Drinking?
- Are You an Adult Who Grew Up with a Problem Drinker?
- Do you worry about how much someone else's drinking?
- Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
- Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?
- Do you feel if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
- Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?
- Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
- Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?
- Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?
- Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
- Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?
- Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
- Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
- Do you search for hidden alcohol?
- Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
- Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
- Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to in order to control the drinker?
- Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
- Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
- Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?
- Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?
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- Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
- Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?
- Do you feel nobody really loves you or cares what happens to you?
- Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking or what's happening in your home?
- Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?
- Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
- Has someone's drinking upset you?
- Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking or others' reactions to the drinking?
- Are you afraid to speak up sometimes for fear it will set off a drinking bout or start another fight?
- Do you think the drinker's behavior is caused by you, other members of your family, friends, or rotten breaks in life?
- Do you make threats such as, "If you don't stop drinking and fighting, I'll run away"?
- Do you make promises about behavior, such as, "I'll get better grades," "go to church," or "keep my room clean" in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting stop?
- Do you feel that if your mom or dad loved you, she or he would stop drinking?
- Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare your parents into saying "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?
- Do you or your family have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
- Are mealtimes frequently stressful or delayed because of drinking or fighting?
- Have you considered calling the police because of the abusive behavior in your home?
- Have you refused dates because your date may find out about the drinking or fighting?
- Do you think your problems would be solved if the drinking stopped?
- Do you ever treat people (teachers, schoolmates, teammates, etc.) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for drinking too much?
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- Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
- Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
- Do you fear criticism?
- Do you over extend yourself?
- Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
- Do you have a need for perfection?
- Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
- Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
- Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
- Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
- Do you isolate yourself from other people?
- Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
- Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
- Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
- Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
- Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and abusive?
- Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
- Do you mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
- Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
- Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?
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